Living in a residence hall on campus can be a rewarding experience; however, there may be times where you and your roommate(s) have some conflict. It’s important to remember that we all come from different backgrounds and although Eastern does attempt to match students with interests that align, conflict can happen. If you and your roommate(s) are going through a difficult time, below are some steps on how to solve them and thrive with your college roomie(s):
Talk it out
Communication is key. Sit down with them and communicate your concerns. This can be done in the comfort of your room or perhaps even going out and getting a bite to eat at the Roost. Remember to allow them to express their own concerns as well. It is important to realize that you may also have done something that they weren’t that comfortable with.
Update Roommate Contract
Once you have both communicated your concerns, try to come to a compromise. Set boundaries and talk to your CA about updating the roommate contract. Go over your roommate contract again and discuss with your roommate improvements you both can make in order to avoid conflict in the future.
Talk to your CA
If you feel as though you tried to communicate with your roommate about issues and the situation didn’t improve, or if you would feel better discussing these conflicts with your roommate while a CA is present, reach out to your CA. Dealing with roommate conflicts is part of their job; they will be more than willing to assist in the situation, and help the two of you come up with a plan of action and resolution.
If you have tried each of these steps and feel as if you are still in a really difficult roommate situation, do not force yourself to stay in that environment. Having a difficult roommate situation can be very stressful and overwhelming. While we always recommend working out the issue sometimes it cannot be resolved and that is ok. If you have tried all these steps and feel there is nothing else you could possibly do to resolve the issues tell your CA, express that you have done every step and that you would like to discuss alternatives.
While we hope you never find yourself in a difficult situation with a roommate, we hope these steps help you with any issues you may run into. Have a great year Eags!