During my summer free time, I reconnected with several friends from my high school and junior college via Facebook and started noticing a pattern among them. Most, if not all, of my old friends either have children, are married or have been married within the last few years. This shocked me. Most of these people are younger than me.
This affected me because so many people are doing more adult things, like raising families and committing to spouses, all while I am still in college and still single. As a matter of fact, I recently learned that two of my friends, both younger than me, have announced their engagements.
I think early to mid twenties is too young of an age to get married. I haven’t always felt this way, but I’ve decided that youth is supposed to be the time to discover who we will become in adulthood. Marriage is too much responsibility to undertake for someone who still doesn’t know who they are. If someone doesn’t know who they are, how will they know who they are supposed to be for another person?
I don’t think people realize all that comes with marriage. Don’t misunderstand me, though. I am an old romantic and think love is the core reason to marry someone. However, that is not what marriage is all about. It is also about paying bills, legal documents and providing for two people or more. In whole, marriage requires one to put the needs of the family ahead of personal desires.
A lot of people will read this article and think, “You don’t know what you’re talking about. You’re single and don’t even have a girlfriend.” This is absolutely true. I am single and have been for a long time.
On the other hand, I know what it is like to be in love with someone and to do anything for them. When one has “the haze of love” over their eyes, they think differently than they would if they were single. Being single, I am able to separate my feelings from truths.
Being in love is one thing, but being married is another, and a lot of sacrifices accompany marriage – sacrifices that people don’t think about or are unwilling to make. It’s my hope that people truly think about all of this before they propose or accept a marriage proposal.