On Jan. 1, I made a New Year’s resolution that I would not fall in love until I graduated from EWU. I made this vow to myself because first and forements, I want to graduate from university and because secondly, I have been disenchanted with the idea of love.
I say the idea of love because I have noticed a pattern with acquaintances and friends recently. People are getting into relationships for fun and amusement more than having a deep emotional connection with someone. Before I go any further, I must say that yes, it is true that love is different for everyone and relationships are different for everyone.
On the other hand, over the last year, three of my friends, who are younger than me, have become engaged, and several of my friends over the last five years have gotten married and, sometime later, have had children.
What surprises me more than this is that a lot of my friends tell me more often than not that the reason they are in love is because they have fun with their significant other and being around them is always exciting.
Maybe I am just a traditionalist, but when I was growing up, I thought the reason people got married was more personal than today’s reason. I thought it was because the person they were marrying understood them more than anyone else, made them feel loved, made them stronger and a better person.
Honestly, I still believe that and feel the main reason to get married is because the person you’re marrying makes this difficult and confusing world less confusing and easier to deal with.
With that said, it seems that my generation, which is a very “generation me” instead of “generation we,” puts a greater emphasis on the need to have fun and have memories that last forever rather than falling in love. This is evident even in the 2009 Pixar film “Up” in which the wife of the main character wrote, “Thanks for the Adventure, now go find another one” to her husband in her journal.
There are many reasons for the change. One reason is because technology is so embedded into people’s lives, and there are so many other activities other than going out on dates.
A lot of people in my generation don’t see the point of getting into relationships because emotional connections take a lot of work and a lot of time.
And to compound that with the fact that more men and women see a better future in a career than in a relationship, wI understand why more people are marrying friends within their own social circle and marrying them because they are fun to be around. Maybe I am too much of a traditional
ffist and too focused on finding the Lois Lane to my Clark Kent. But that’s the kind of love I want for myself, to have a deep emotional connection with someone for a long time. Perhaps I’m a dying breed.